Life is Messy- Dealing with Unexpected Changes in Life
Life is messy.
The other day I got a text from a family member that brought up a lot of past pains. I thought I had healed from them, but apparently, I still had more to do. And this is how I ended up sitting on the floor, jetlagged, eating a falafel pita, with tears running down my face and talking to my phone in an attempt to finally start a podcast.
Welcome to my life.
Here’s what I’ve learned:
1. Bad days are normal
When I started sharing my story, I fell into comparison. Let’s be real, I still do. Being on social media, I realized that people tend to share the good parts but not the bad. It gives us this expectation that everyone is perfect and that we should strive for perfection. But that’s just not reality. No one has their life perfectly figured out. No one knows exactly what they’re doing. We’re stumbling our way through this crazy adventure so why don’t we uplift each other in the process? Just a thought.
2. life is messy. embrace it.
Life is messy. Learn to embrace it. We are all human, let’s learn to embrace our messy life moments. Would I rather curl up in a ball and cry? Hell yeah. But I’ve learned to at least *try * to be graceful with myself. Beating yourself up over the bad moments does no good; it only makes you feel worse. I want to be kind to myself, support my emotions, and learn to listen and grow with them. Yeah, it hurts, but it’s a journey in which I’ve really enjoyed learning more about myself.
3. healing sucks
Sometimes you think you’re healed and you’re not. That’s just the reality. It’s the annoying truth, so we learn (or try to learn) to live with it. We deal with it and it’s messy af. Sometimes it feels like you’re taking two steps back and one step forward and other times it just feels like you’re taking twenty steps back and none forward. it’s not fun, but I promise it is normal. Every single human has gone through it. It’s okay to not be okay.
These raw and honest conversations are the important ones. These are the human moments that we shy away from so often. My reality? It’s pure, it’s painful, and it’s beautiful.
So here I am in the first brain dump of an episode, sharing my words and hoping to make a change with them… let me know your thoughts, and stay tuned for the next one.
Sending love,
-Alessia Maria
